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April 07, 2008

Meet the Blogger: Dana Rudolph of Mombian

I decided I'd like to do a series of short interviews of some of the bloggers I admire most, and brave Dana Rudolph of Mombian stepped up, willing to be the first, as she often does.Danarudolph300x268

Dana started Mombian nearly 3 years ago. She and her partner Helen have a four-year-old son and two cats. Her interests (besides her family) include history, fencing, taekwondo, rock climbing, and the Red Sox.

RR: Tell us a bit about your background.

DR:  I have over a decade of experience in the online industry, at both the startup and corporate levels. Most recently, I was a vice president at Merrill Lynch, developing marketing and business strategies for several key online initiatives. I was also the first leader of the firm's global LGBT employee network. Prior to the business world, I was on an academic track, doing graduate work towards a career as a medieval historian. (No, I didn't dress up as someone from the Middle Ages; I dressed in jeans and spent time in stuffy old libraries.) In some ways, however, blogging combines my previous disparate endeavors: I get to write and do research like an academic, while marketing and maintaining my Web site. 

RR: When you first started MOMBIAN what was your mission and how has it changed over time? What do you hope to deliver to your audience?

DR: From the start, I knew I didn't want to write a diary-type blog. There were already many good ones like that, and I didn't think my own family life was interesting enough to keep people coming back. (My writing Mombian80x15 background, a mix of marketing and academia, may also have influenced this choice. See next question.) I also noticed that most of the existing parenting sites didn't often include lesbians, and most of the lesbian sites didn't often include parents. I therefore decided to make Mombian a site for news and information of interest to lesbian moms and other LGBT parents.

I think that mission has pretty much stayed the same. I hope to deliver posts that are both informative and entertaining, that look at LGBT news and culture with a parent's eye, and at parenting topics with an LGBT eye. I cover everything from politics to entertainment—but I'm not trying to cover all politics, like, say, PageOneQ, or all entertainment, like After Ellen. I want to extract what's of interest to parents and try to make connections that others may have missed. Of course, since I'm the publisher, I sometimes break my own rules and post about something random that catches my attention, but I try to keep it to a minimum.

RR: How does blogging compared to other types of writing you've done in the past?

DR: The closest predecessor to my blogging was a weekly update I used to compile at Merrill Lynch, summarizing news in online financial services. It went out by e-mail to over 150 executives at the firm, and was similar in style to the Weekly Political Roundup I do on Mombian.

Some of the marketing material I used to write has helped me in promoting my site, but not in creating the actual posts. Likewise, my academic work gave me a foundation for some of my longer pieces that require research, but they are not a perfect analogy. Blog posts have to be shorter and punchier, more like newspaper articles than research papers.

RR: What has been the high point of blogging for you, so far?2008familyday120x240_2

DR: The constant high point is the number of friendly and interesting people I've met—bloggers, commenters, and others who have reached out to connect in some way. I'm also proud of the growing success of Blogging for LGBT Families Day, which had over 150 participants last June. The diversity of people and experiences always amazes me. (It will be held again this year on June 2.)

RR: What's the strangest thing that's happened to you since you became a parent?

DR: Becoming a parent was pretty strange in itself. I'm one of those for whom the parenting urge came late; I wasn't against it when I was younger, but it wasn't a burning priority for me as it is for some people.

It's also been very strange being the stay-at-home mom. Both my partner Helen and I have done stints as the SAHM. She gave birth to our son (using my egg and donor sperm), and started out at home, but some changes at the company I worked for led us both to throw our resumes into the ring. She got the better offer, and so we switched roles. We'll probably stick it out this way now until our son is older; going back and forth too much probably wouldn't be good for him. It wasn't something I was expecting, though, even when we started on the road to parenthood. Not that I'm complaining; as I tell Helen, my boss is a lot cuter than hers.

February 22, 2008

The OTHER Election

Tll_typogenerator_graphic_1 While everyone is talking about Clinton and Obama, Obama and Clinton, there's another election taking place.  TLL has announced the five finalists in their Lesbian Blog of the Year award.

This Girl Called Automatic Win
Hahn at Home
Lesbian Dad
Sugarbutch Chronicles
Dorothy Surrenders

Make you choice and cast your vote here. The voting ends on March 3, 2008, and the winner will be announced on March 8.

February 13, 2008

It's "Freedom to Marry" Week

FtmlogotiffFeel free to jump into Some/thing, a blog carnival, even if you missed a day or two.  Here are the details.  Leave a link to your blog, and I'll add you to the official list.

January 18, 2008

Blog of the Year

Nowacceptingblackml1 It's that time again.  You can nominate/vote for the best lesbian blog of 2007 at TLL today.  (It's an unusual process in that there is no distinction between nominating and voting.)  The voting will continue up until February 15th.

December 21, 2007

R U Axed?

Are_you_my_mother Parents.com, we are very disappointed!  You just axed one of the funniest lesbian mommy blogs around. Have a heart.  Please give us Harlyn Aizley's Are You My Mothers back for Christmas. 

(Find out the whole story from Suburban Lesbian Housewife.)

November 08, 2007

Results from The L Word Survey

The survey results are in.  Thanks for participating.  Most of the 115 participants (96%) have watched either some or most of the episodes of The L Word. The reasons people watch the show are (1) to see other lesbians on television and (2) the sex scenes.  Here are the breakdowns for the questions about the characters.

Which character on The L Word is most attractive to you?Shaneblueshirt

  1. Shane (39%)
  2. Alice (15%)
  3. Bette (14%)
  4. Helena (8%)
  5. Marina (7%)

Which character on The L Word is most like you?Alice_on_a_ladder

  1. Alice (35%)
  2. Tina (20%)
  3. None of them (11%)
  4. Bette (10%)
  5. Shane (8%)

Your thoughts are (as always) welcome!

November 06, 2007

Any Educated Guesses?

L_word_dvd_cov_season_4 The L Word survey has officially closed now.  Thanks to everyone who participated in the poll.  I will post the results tomorrow.  In the meantime, if you'd like to predict the results, please feel free. 

August 13, 2007

F 2 F

Img_6632 Way before Pearl was born, even before triying to conceive (TTC), Marcia and I joined our local LGBT parenting group.  Initially, our "status" was "wannabee."  We attended a few presentations on topics that were relevant to us.

Time passed.  Our status changed. One kid. Two kids. We remained members, but with two toddlers in tow, who had time to participate in anything?  Anything organized, that is.

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But things are (knock on wood) getting a little easier for us, and after our successful romp on the beach last week, we decided to go all out and attend our group's beach party.

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We had another great afternoon at Galveston beach.  We even got to meet face-to-face some friends we've made through this blog. Pearl and Carrie were so in love with the water that I barely got to talk to our new pals, but meeting them was definitely one of the high points.

Have you sought and found a parenting group that you enjoy?

July 26, 2007

Sometimes I Ask Myself

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This article in New York magazine by David Amsden doesn't fit perfectly into the schema of this blog, but I find it very compelling. After I read it, I tried to figure out why. Maybe it's yet another direction my life could have taken.  Maybe it's another way of appreciating what I have.

July 25, 2007

Question of the Day

Family_pride_photo_ptown_2006Are you attending the Family Pride Week celebrations in Provincetown?  Dana from Mombian will be live blogging all week long.  For our family, some day, some way.  We'd love to do it, but not this year. For those of you lucky dogs who will be there, have muchisimo fun!

July 20, 2007

Just Like Us

72007jf012406 Jodie Foster fans, have you read the newest news on AfterEllen?  It made me happy.

(via Mombian)

July 17, 2007

AfterEllen's Alter Ego (That's Me)

Yes, I want to write about The L Word, only I am even more woefully behind than ever.  AfterEllen is the first blog to cover these TV spectacles, and I am the very last.  Just finished Season 3 this week so bear with me.

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Just to remind you where Season 3 ends, Dana has died, Shane has left Carmen alone at the altar, post-menopausal Kit is pregnant, and Helena has been cut off from her wealthy family.  Some rough stuff, right?

With characters in, characters out, have your impressions changed?   Who's irritating?  Who's sexy? Who would be your friend? What do you think about Max and the trans narrative? Were you surprised that Shane flew the coop?

Here are a few randoms from yours truly.  Alice is the ultimate lesbian friend. She's funny, smart, loyal, gossipy, and cute.  For some reason, I never had a clear sense of Carmen.  She doesn't stand out for me. On the DVD bonus footage, a bunch of women said Carmen was there favorite character, so I thought that was interesting.  As you may recall, Jenny has always annoyed me.  Lword_cd_cover_imageShe doesn't seem like a writer, and her character doesn't ring true for me. Max is interesting to me, in his lostness.  I found the scenes between Dylan and Helena very hot. I'm letting my authority issues hang out in saying this, but Helena is sexy as was Marina in Season 1.  Maybe I'm just a sucker for foreign accents?

So tell me your thoughts! And don't worry about spoiling Season 4 for me.  I can take it.

June 07, 2007

The Other Mother Makes the Top 10!

Kathy Belge of About.com's Lesbian Life column recently chose the 10 best lesbian blogs.  Along side Dana from Mombian and Polly from LesbianDad, along side celebs such as Rosie and Kate, what do you know?  The Other Mother made the grade.  Woo hoo!  Check out the whole list here.

May 31, 2007

Celebrating our Families

2007familyday120x240For the second time, Mombian is sponsoring "Blogging for LGBT Families" Day on June 1st which is tomorrow.  Last year I didn't post my contribution until June 1st, and a number of blogger friends said they would have participated, had they known.

This year I'm feeling generous and am, therefore, giving you a whopping 12 hours notice.  You don't have to be L, G, B, or T to play.  The instructions are outlined on the Mombian website.  Once you post your thoughts, email Dana so that your link will be included with all the other ones.  I'll submit something tomorrow morning.

May 07, 2007

In the News

Here's a story about our gang that appears in the May issue of OutSmart.

April 25, 2007

Wedding Belles

Levy_and_norquist_wedding I enjoyed reading Ariel Levy's essay about her lesbian wedding featured in the Sex and Love issue of New York magazine.  Levy does a nice job capturing the weirdness of gay weddings, both for the great aunt Mildreds of our lives and also for ourselves. Here's an excerpt:

"I am not a total idiot. I always had the sense to say no wedding cake, no officiant, no first dance, no here comes the bride, no Times announcement, and absolutely no white dress. Who are we kidding? And why? We just wanted a big, awesome party where everyone could meet and go bananas. It’s a special opportunity, you know: The only other time everyone you love will assemble in one place is at your funeral."

The humor of Levy's writing is uplifting. I came away from this essay thinking that if I had realized that "Here Comes the Bride" could be replaced with "Crimson and Clover," maybe I would have pushed Marcia a little harder in the direction of weddingville.  Read the whole essay here.

March 06, 2007

News of the Day

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Do you remember in May when an essay I wrote was published in a book by Beacon Press?  It's called Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All, edited by Harlyn Aizley.  Well, that book was nominated for a Lambda Literary Award.  But even better than that, it is a finalist.

The Awards Ceremony will be on May 31st in NYC.  You can see the complete list of finalists here.

January 05, 2007

Announcing the TLL Award

Tllawardgj0Our friends at TLL (The Lesbian Lifestyle) have created a new award for lesbian blogs and websites.  The nominated blogs must be written or maintained by lesbians.  You can nominate your favorites up until the deadline, Jan. 31st. 

December 12, 2006

Vote Today!

One of my favorite blogs, LesbianDad, is a finalist for the 2006 Weblog Award for Best New Blog. You can be a good citizen and cast your vote here.  The polls close on December 15.

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November 13, 2006

Fly on the Wall

Characters: Pearl and Mama

Setting:  This conversation took place between Pearl and Marcia in the car on the way home from preschool.  Nana had just left the day before; she went home to Virginia.  Marcia says that there were long pauses between each sentence.

Scribe: Baba

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Pearl:  Little Quack had a hard day at school today.

Mama:  Oh, I'm sorry to hear about that.  Are you Little Quack?

Pearl:  Yes.

Pearl:  I have two mommies.

Mama:  Yes, that's true.  Some people have two mommies, and some people have a mommy and a daddy.  Some kids live with their grandparents. Families can look many different ways.  Love is what makes a family a family.

Pearl:  Yes.

Pearl:  I wish I had three mommies.

October 16, 2006

It Happens Fast

Today Pearl told Marcia, "All the kids have a mommy and a daddy except me."  We knew this would happen, but we didn't think it would happen this soon.  She's 2 1/2 years old!  Marcia explained that some families have two moms or two dads or a grandfather, and so on. And left it at that.

Then I got home.  Early, because it's flooding here.  Marcia whispered what had happened.  We sat down for a snack, and the Sunday newspaper was lying at the end of the table, unread.  There was a big front page story on same-sex parents, and the picture happened to be one of the lesbian families who was in our adoption group in San Antonio in August. I showed Pearl the picture and asked if she remembered the two mommies and their baby boy.  She nodded seriously, yes.  Then Marcia pointed out other details from the photo, such as their cat and their dog.  That's all we've *done* so far.

Please guide us on this one.

And take a look at Cynthia Garza's story on gay and lesbian parents in the Houston Chronicle.

June 25, 2006

Details from our Weekend

  • Family_606_066Yes, friends, crazy Jojo (Carrie) can sit and twist and shout.  She is a tiny, human tumbleweed, rolling across the prairie of our lives.  And oh, what a screamer!
  • Pearl has learned the names of at least 60 of the trains from Thomas the Tank Engine from the toys, the books, and the videos.  Marcia has decided that as long as Pearl is--at this developmental moment--capable of memorizing so much stuff so fast that she's going to try teaching her something useful, such as the name of all the birds.  Or Spanish.  Go Mommy go Pearl go!
  • We have the most wonderful social worker helping us with our adoption, and the home visit went well last Friday. The craziest moment of the morning was when Carrie had just gotten up from her nap.  Marcia had taken Pearl to go look for a panda bear (emergency!), and I was holding Carrie in my lap, and I sneezed.  The loud sound scared her so much that she began to sob.  And when the only face she could see was the social worker's (I held her facing out), she began to shed huge, marble-sized tears.  As soon as she saw Marcia return, however, all was well.  Just in the past week, Carrie has figured out that some people are strangers.
  • We went to a pride party Saturday night.  It was fun, and we also saw what we thought to be a glimpse into the future.  Among new (to her) folks, Pearl usually sticks close to Mommy and Baba.  At this party, however, she met a 3 year old girl and the two of them played with dolls and a doll house for 2 hours.  Pearl didn't even stop to eat dinner.  The 8 year old girls were so great with the younger ones, even letting them dance to music with them.  At one point, Marcia interrupted the dancing to see if Pearl needed a potty break.  Pearl gave her an adamant NO and waved her out the room!
  • Lately I have gotten addicted to a new (to me) computer game.  If you like word games such as Scrabble or Boggle, do NOT click on the link for Babble.  You have been warned.
  • Inspired by Shannon, I have been trying to cook more lately.  As usual, my intentions are much more impressive than the reality, but I have been serving up whole grains, vegetables, and other good foods when possible.  All yummy too, I might.
  • We started a modified cry-it-out routine with Carrie about 10 days ago, and to our great surprise she and we are all doing well with that.  She's slept until at least 4 a.m. most nights since then.  A light at end of the tunnel of sleeplessness?  We shall see.
  • Happy Pride!  Have a great week.

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